Are you a good enough parent? With all the demands and expectations of raising babies and children in the modern world, from programs offering promises for creating 'super babies' as early as starting in the womb, the pressure to be the perfect parent and have the perfect child is all too prevalent. When a parent inevitably fails in this perfection have they doomed their child for life? If the child's birth wasn't the most peaceful entrance into the world or early separation occurred has the mother, or parent already failed their baby setting a imprint of irreversible damage of a broken bond OR is it that the good enough parent actually is all you need to be to raise adaptive and resilient adults.
This episode of Pregnancy Birth and Beyond we explore how early experiences during the pre and perinatal period impact on how a person develops.
My guest for this episode is Dr Holly Goldberg. Holly is a specialist in pre and perinatal psychology and has been working with childbearing families for the past 20 years. Holly resides in California in the USA with her family.
The late Donald Winnicott was a English psychoanalysis who had a special interest in what is now known as pre and perinatal psychology. In 1953 he coined the term The Good Enough Mother, now more frequently refereed to as the good enough parent. Winnicott theories proposed were in direct opposition at the time to the notions of 'don't pick the baby up or you will spoil him or her, sending children off to boarding school at a young age and rigid schedules on feeding, to name a few. Winnicott came from the era when parents were told to feed every 4 hours and leave the baby in the cot or pram between much of these feed times. However, Winnicott encouraged a mother to follow her instincts and to not let the experts or old wives tales undermine her, to "go ahead and get to know your baby." Winnicott hosted a series of talks on BBC radio during the late 40's and 50's titled The Ordinary Devoted Mother and Her Baby. Also on this topic, for your interest is this article written in 'The Philosophers Mail; the school of life.' Here the author shares with the reader five parenting practices Winnicott spoke off on the raising babies. These five key points are:
Remember that your child is very vulnerable
Let a child be angry
Make sure your child isn't too compliant
Let your child be
Realise the gravity of the job you've taken on
Winnicott understood while the mother could be seen as a separate person, someone who before pregnancy and motherhood had a life of her own, a baby on the other hand cannot be seen alone, it is in relation to someone, it's mother, father, parent. We see this is the dynamic of the intimate relationship that develops during in-utero and in the early weeks post-partum. As Anne Morrow said, “in the sheltered simplicity of the first few days after a baby is born one sees again the magical sense of two people existing only for each other."
Repair is real and can be done at anytime no matter how long ago imprinting took place.
In our interview Dr. Goldberg tells us that all events during pregnancy and during the prenatal period whether traumatic or healthy leave an imprint. The important thing to remember is that people have the ability to repair and humans are hard wired to be resilient. "Our brain has the incredible capacity to attune and connect with a primary caregiver and in doing so that connection and relational dependency between the child and the caregiver will help structure the child's brain so they can grow up healthy, strong and resilient in this world."
"The fact that grief takes so long to resolve is not a sign of inadequacy, but a betokens depth of soul." D.W.Winnicott.
Also featured in this episode is the work of Dr Thomas Verny from his book The Secret Life of the Unborn Child; a remarkable and controversial look at life before birth. Verny writes “many of the ways a woman communicates behaviourally with her child are so subtle and seemingly ordinary that it is easy to overlook their effect on the intrauterine bonding.” Listen to the episode to hear more.
More about Dr Holly Goldberg: Holly has conducted and published numerous peer-reviewed studies and served as editor of national podcasts and internationalbooks devoted to informed decision making during pregnancy. Holly has also simultaneously spearheaded the implementation of private and government funded programs aimed at empowering individuals with information and education to foster informed choices about treatment and promotion of healthy living for childbearing families. More recently Holly has redirected her research and science background and refocused her career on being a flower essence counselor and alchemist. You can connect with Holly here at her website floweressenceapothecary.com
I was first introduced to Functional Medicine in 2013 when I was a student at the Institute for Integrative Nutrition in New York. The school had gathered some of the top minds in medicine and nutrition and delivered what i liked to call 'essence classes' with them. We heard from Walter Willett, Fredrick John Stare Professor of Epidemiology and Nutrition at Harvard Public Health who studies the effects of diet on the occurrence of major diseases. Publishing over 1700 original research papers most notable on how diet greatly impacts on our chronic health and disease status. Medical Students in the US receive an average of 23.9 hours of nutrition curriculum in their overall degrees. When Nutrition is at the seat of our overall health and wellbeing - this figure is iniquitous. Its not that different in Australia, as Professor Caryl Nowson from Deakin University explains:
Currently, medical graduates are ill-equipped to identify and appropriately manage nutritional issues of patients, which contributes to increased complication rates and hospitalisation time,” Professor Nowson said. “The inclusion of nutrition within medical degrees across Australia at present is haphazard and uncoordinated, and course infrastructures do not support the delivery of a sustainable nutrition curriculum within courses. - Australian Medical Association article October, 2014
Although Walter Willet was not the one that informed me about Functional Medicine, he did point the finger in the direction of this thought: better care is needed if we want to call our health services - 'health care'. It was Dr Mark Hyman, that lectured on several occasions that ignited the love of Functional Medicine in me and I have been waiting, very patiently, to see it arrive on our shores here in Australia.
Not to be confused with Integrative Medicine, Functional Medicine is a scalable, trackable and repeatable operating system that doctors can use to take their healthcare from a disease management based model to a health-creation based model. Integrative Medicine can mean different things to consumers and practitioners - Sometimes it's the way a Physician practices using additional modalities and sometimes it's who they refer to. Although they most likely adhere to a similar philosophy, there is currently no specific operating system under which IM practitioners in Australia all work.
James Maskell - Functional Medicine and the Micropractice, Sydney March 2017. Presented by AIMA
video credit/copyright AIMA
Welcome to this Special Feature episode of pregnancy birth and beyond; The Changing landscape of Medicine around the world and how Australian physicians and consumers are inspired to ask better questions about our healthcare system. I have been facinated by and folowing Funcitonal Medicine for the past four years since i first heard about it and recently had the opportunity to meet with one of its biggest internatioanl advocates, James Maskell. This facination has opened the door to a wider discussion about healthcare. Medicine and science are evolving at a breakneck speed and yet chronic disease is on the rise, global antimicrobial resistance threatens to destroy some of scinece’s most notable achievements and the cost of healthcare in an ailing and aging society may very well be digging us all into a early grave.
The two part article features several passionate trailblazing figures in the move towards changing the way healthcare is delivered, both globally and locally. The first part looks at some of the overarching issues within the current medical system and the new emerging model of care seeking to correct and create significant primary healthcare reform around the world. In the second part we take a cloer look at Functional Medicine and what we can all do to create better outcomes for ourselves as cnsumers and practitioners.
We hear from James, an international speaker, founder of Functional Forum and The Evolution of Medicine and author of a compelling book with the same title. We also tap into the wisdom of Dr Penny Caldicott, President of the Australasian Integrative Medicine Association and founder and director of Invitation to Health. Championing Integrative Medicine, Penny walks among those leading a new era in Australian healthcare. Reine duBois, Clinical Director of the Health Lodge in Byron Bay also features discussing her passion, experience and how she makes it work in her practice. I also speak to Sally Cusack who is NSW Branch President of Maternity Choices Australia and has significant experience navigating the Australian healthcare system and understanding the unique needs of healthcare consumers. There will be a few sound bites form the AIMA conference in Sydney; Functional Medicine and the Micropractice.
Each patient represents a unique, complex, and interwoven set of environmental and lifestyle in uences on intrinsic functionality (their genetic vulnerabilities) that have set the stage for the development of disease or the maintenance of health. - from Introduction to Functional Medicine
Listen to Part ONE of the Changing Landscape of Medicine
Interviewees in this article
Dr Penny Caldicott, BMed, FRACGP
-Director of AIMA & founding member of Invitation to Health
-Clinical Director at the Health Lodge
-Founder of Functional Forum
-Evolution fo Medicine
-Author of the Evolution of Medicine
-NSW President Maternity Choices Australia, Australia’s peak maternity consumer represnting body
More information about our interviewees below.
The Australian Healthcare System. Below is an excerpt from a great article attempting to define our Aussie healthcare. I highly recommend reading it to better understand the services that this unique system offers!
"For most people their first contact with the Australian health system when they become ill is a visit to a general practitioner (GP). The GP may refer them to a specialist or a public hospital, order diagnostic testing, write them a prescription or pursue other treatment options. But patient and clinical care are just 2 components of a much broader and complex network that involves multiple providers working in numerous settings, supported by a variety of legislative, regulatory and funding arrangements." Click HERE for the full article.
Functional Medicine. Functional Medicine addresses the underlying causes of disease, using a systems-oriented approach and engaging both patient and practitioner in a therapeutic partnership. It is an evolution in the practice of medicine that better addresses the healthcare needs of the 21st century. By shifting the traditional disease-centered focus of medical practice to a more patient-centered approach, Functional Medicine addresses the whole person, not just an isolated set of symptoms. Functional Medicine practitioners spend time with their patients, listening to their histories and looking at the interactions among genetic, environmental, and lifestyle factors that can influence long-term health and complex, chronic disease. In this way, Functional Medicine supports the unique expression of health and vitality for each individual. IFM
Integrative Medicine. Integrative medicine is a philosophy of healthcare with a focus on individual patient care and combining the best of conventional western medicine and evidence-based complementary medicine and therapies within current mainstream medical practice. AIMA
Citations, Links & Resources
>IFM - Institute for Functional Medicine
>Applying functional Medicine free resources for practitioners
21st Century Medicine; A new model for medical education and practice
Integrative Medicine in Australia
>Australasian Integrative Medicine Association
>Evolution of Medicine
>The Evolution of Medicine book
>Functional Forum meet ups in Australia (scroll down the directory for current events)
Mayo Clinic research
36 holes in the roof
>Article summarising some recent studies including 36 holes and a few others
>Reversal of cognitive decline; A novel therapeutic approach (the study)
Australia’s health care services explained
>Preventive care programs in Australia
Department of health - education & prevention
>AIHW Corporate plan 2016-17 - 2019-20
>Australian Atlas of Healthcare Variation
>Chronic disease management
Physician health and wellbeing
>Preventing doctor suicide (US website)
>ABC News - AMA calls for national approach to help doctors deal with physical and mental health
>Healing relationships study
Evidence-based healthcare dissemination
Book: How to implement evidence based healthcare / Trisha Greenhalgh (2017)
Why change is difficult for some and easier for others
>Harvard Medical School demonstration of antimicrobial resistance
>World Health Organisation
>Australia’s Antimicrobial Resistance strategy 2015-2019
>The Australian Atlas of Healthcare
Key Findings and recommendations
Excerpt: Australia has very high overall rates of community antimicrobial use compared with some countries.
In 2013–14, more than 30 million prescriptions for antimicrobials were dispensed. Many of these were unnecessary because antimicrobials are frequently used to treat infections for which they provide little or no benefit.
>AIMA ethics in research reading
>Ben Goldacre: Battling bad sciencehttps://www.ted.com/talks/ben_goldacre_battling_bad_science#t-871608
There's no doubt adolescence is a huge time of growth and transformation for our youth, but do opportunities for our own personal growth also lie in this period for the elders in their lives?
Robin Grille, father, psychologist and author of "Parenting for a Peaceful World" and "Heart to Heart Parenting" believes they do. Yes, our kids press our buttons in the most unexpected ways, and to the depths of our core. One comment or a side-ways look can have our hackles rising immediately. Where do these reactions of ours come from? We may feel completely justified with our feelings, but it's possible, as Robin suggests that the adolescents in our lives are taking us back to our own 'unfinished business' from when we were making our own way through that tumultuous time.
When we find ourselves in this place of conflict, we can know that we always have some choices here: to ignore the source of our reaction, and continue pushing for the outcome we are seeking in that moment. Or we can roll our sleeves up, and seek out the unresolved wounds from our past that come hurtling into the present. But we need support for this. It's big work for all of us. Help comes in many forms, listening partnerships, counselling, peer support and workshops, such as Robin's "Inner Child Journey".
Yes, there are in fact precious opportunities for healing our dear young ones bring us. In a way, as Robin says, 'they grow us up'.
Hear more from Robin about the hidden treasures of adolescence for all of us in this new podcast.
Robin will also be visiting our region later this month to speak with parents and elders with adolescents in their lives. He will also be holding an Inner Child Journey to help us identify our unfinished business - and heal it.
Does the sharing of birth stories actually benefit those preparing for their birthing time? I ask Pam England, "isn't it a good thing to share positive birth stories?" You maybe surprised to hear what Pam says.
This episode of Pregnancy Birth & Beyond Radio features sharing positive birth stories, and in-particular the listening to positive birth stories as a form of birth preparation. My guest for this episode is Pam England. Pam lives in Albuquerque New Mexico, USA, author of Birthing From Within, Labyrinth of Birth and her latest released book Ancient Maps for Modern Birth. Pam also is the founder of Birth Story Medicine a unique approach to emotional healing after or after witnessing a difficult child birth experience. Pam is also founder of Birthing From Within. Pam practiced as a certified nurse midwife for 18 years, both within hospital and home settings, she also has a masters in counselling.
In the dominate birth culture there is a focus on the medical outcome of a birth, and this outcome partitions mothers into unspoken birth camps, the natural birth camp, the epidural birth camp, the caesarian birth camp, the traumatised birth camp and so on. This intense focus on the medical outcome of a birth completely ignores the preparation a mother did before birth and the ways in which she managed to find her way through any obstacles and challenges throughout the labor.
Pam shares with us why only listening to positive birth stories doesn't work as a way to fully prepare for birth. The sprinkling of positive birth stories on top of 6o plus years of deep conditioning of overly medicalised birth doesn't work to inoculate a mother to be from having a difficult or challenging birth.
“If it is hoarded it has no value, if it is squandered it has no legacy. When shared wisely for the benefit of all, it becomes worthy of the blood, sweat and tears you shed to gain it” David Hartman and Diane Zimberoff, sourced from Ancient Maps for Modern Birth by Pam England.
This episode was produced by Lara Martin and aired live from Bayfm 99.9 on May 29th 207 and broadcasts across Australia on the Community Radio Network.
Song credit: Blind Pilot, The story I heard. Bic Runga - The gift that keeps on giving.
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The spectrum upon which sexuality & gender are defined is fascinating and comprehensive. More importantly, understanding it, is the doorway for more compassion and less judgement and our newest generation is leading the way.
Listen to our first show on Gender & Sexual Diversity with our expert Gopi Lev
This episode first aired live on Monday 22 May, 2017 from the studios of BayFM in Byron Bay and is broadcasting across Australia on the Community Radio Network.
As promised, Gopi has complied an awesome resources list for us all, see below for her picks.
Gender Failure by Ivan Coyote and Rae Spoon
Interwoven memoirs of transcending the gender binary co-authored by two iconic writers within the queer community. A heart-warming and beautifully written read.
Delusions of Gender by Cordelia Fine
A comprehensive insight into the way we impose the gender binary upon children and the effects of this process. Combining new, cutting-edge neuroscience and sociological examinations of how neurosexism and arbitrary gender roles undermine our society, Cordelia Fine has made an incredible case for abandoning the binary once and for all.
The Argonauts by Maggie Nelson
An instant bestseller, Maggie Nelson has penned what reads as a mix between memoir, philosophical masterpiece and touching perspective on her life with her genderfluid partner, Harry. She details their process of having a child together, sharing custody of his other child and her own journey of pregnancy and motherhood as a queer woman in the 21st century. I could feel that it would be one of my favourite books after 3 pages.
We’ve Been Around
A project that aims to undo the harmful misconception that transgender identity is a modern thing presented as a wonderful series of videos sharing the stories of transgender people throughout history.
Riley creates beautiful, informative content covering a lot of topics relating to intersectional feminism, including but not limited to her trans experience, body shaming, classism and more.
A trans woman of colour, Kat Blaque makes videos discussing the intersections of race, gender and social justice in general. Her affable personality and widely informative videos have made her one of the most popular trans Youtubers today.
English transman, Alex Bertie has chronicled his transition (including starting testosterone and getting surgery) on his Youtube channel, talking about the aspects of his experiences with a mix of humour and vulnerability.
A brilliant source for easy-to-read, compassionately delivered articles on everything intersectional including misogyny, classism, gender, body image and so much more. Highly recommended as a resource for anybody interested in learning how they can contribute to a kinder, more just world for all.
Have your say.
At the beginning of each show we make a statement: "We honour a woman's right to choice, her body, her baby - their birth". During the show, the question was raised as to the validity of this statement - is it whole? does it encompass everyone? Is it exclusive of some? Not all people that give birth identify as women. We look forward to workshopping this and making our show and content more inclusive, specifically in terms of gender and sexuality, in the coming months and years.
We would love to hear from you:
- do you have an idea as to how to make our opening statement more inclusive?
- do you have a compelling gender & Sexual diversity story to share with the world?
Let us know below
Mothers can move mountains
We bearers of new life are a powerful lot. We perform life's most incredible act of growing then birthing babies. But when we're in the thick of raising young children, we can often feel like the antithesis of power. In or under-supported, sleep deprived, wild-haired sometimes screaming state, with seemingly endless demands on us, we can wonder if we'll ever be able to string a sentence together again.
But if our beloved birth services are suddenly under threat, we can catapult ourselves way out of our comfort zones into the public sphere to restore them.
In this episode we will hear from three mums on different campaigns to save their local birth stories. Rachel Bryant from Murwillumbah, Samantha Wibberley from Tamworth and Helena Mooney from Sydney have all been inspired to become birth activists from one day to the next. "I just couldn't stand by and let the closure happen." says Rachel.
We also learn about national health and safety standard Standard 2: Partnering with Consumers that means health services need to involve their patients in the planning, delivery and review of their health care. This standard means that health services can't close their services or deny services to their community without involving them in these decisions.
In all three stories from this episode, the community was not involved in the decisions relating to their local birth services. So, the initial focus for these women is get meetings with hospital management.
This can sound easy - surely the hospital will agree to meet their community, right? Well, none of Rachel's, Samantha's or Helena's first meeting requests were welcomed by their hospitals. In all cases, they have had to write lots of letters, build significant community support and in the case of Murwillumbah and Tamworth, rally out the front with their prams and placards before the doors were opened to them...
Find out how these mothers' stories of moving mountains play out in this podcast.
And we'd love to hear from you if you'd like to see change for your local birth services!
Right across this country we've seen the closure of 100s of birth services in recent decades, so if you live out of an urban area, changes are you've got limited birth choices. And that's not right. Our national maternity services plan calls for woman-centred continuity of care near where women live. This is how we get the best possible birth outcomes for women, babies, their families and our communities as a whole.
With sincerest thanks to all three heroines in this journey: Rachel Bryant, Samantha Wibberley and Helena Mooney and their communities supporting them. Without their efforts, evidence-based birth services would sink without a trace. Thank you also to Melissa Fox, CEO of Health Consumers Queensland who explains how hospitals are meant to engage with their patients or 'consumers'.
Our show Pregnancy, Birth & Beyond (radio/podcast) turned new idea PBB Media (in development) along with around 100 other excited projects, has been chosen by the Walkley Media Incubator & Innovation Fund for longest in their much coveted training program. It is an absolute honour to be included in this list and for us as a group of women/mothers to enhance our skills, connections and understanding within the world of Media. Equally important, we are acutely aware of the critical position we hold to represent women in Australia and women's rights at large, within the context of childbirth.
As mothers, we undoubtably run full and rich lives (a term I borrowed from Deathwalker and dear friend Zenith Virago, instead of using the old 'busy' all the time, which is tiring to-even-just-say!). We have our children, houses, husbands, work, family community duties and connections, and civic duties to engage, satisfy and maintain. Then, we have our own health & wellbeing to attend to. Not an easy task for any woman and certainly any mother. Yet, we have all been pulled in by the lure of something bigger than us to PBBM. Woven over the years by the countless stories we have heard, each of us in our own roles - Sally as Maternity Consumer Representative, Lara trained in Psychology, Doulaing & Lactation support, and me Annalee, as Health Coach & problem solver (AKA Producer), we have heard these stories form our own unique capacities and threaded them into our tapestries, unable to un-hear them.
Our work at Pregnancy, Birth and Beyond crosses many borders, on a daily basis. We collect stories from researchers, we bring them back to base. We hear stories from mothers, and bring them back to base. We hear stories from midwives, families, fathers, doctors, professors, mothers (of all ages), heads of obstetrics, local health districts, consumers, teachers, colleagues, children, grandparents... We collect these stories that have been entrusted with us, knowing that they have a place in the bigger puzzle, not always knowing exactly where they fit and how they fit. Although slow and sometimes tedious is our work, there is a sense of urgency in it. There is a deeper understanding that each story is powerful in its own right and merits our full attention. No longer can we just 'hear a story', traumatic or positive, from a mother, caretaker or child. We must come full circle with it, seek resolve and make sense.
We see a world where families have access to the best quality information & are equally supported by their community and healthcare teams. Congruency between evidence-based research, long-held traditions & new ideas.. All converging to enhance health, happiness & resilience. This is our ethos, what stands behind our will to get up every day and continue the work that we do.
We have been OVER THE MOON finding out that we have been long-listed for the Walkeys Incubator & Innovation Fund this year, after applying for a grant through their program. The opportunity to learn from and connect with some of Australia's leading mentors in an incubator style learning and growing experience! Just like being in the womb :-D (you can imagine our delight!).
"This year, we extended the program significantly and brought in several of Australia’s best startup mentors to make sure as many projects as possible get access to transformational education to turn their idea into a viable and experimental venture. This year, 162 projects were entered, around 100 will receive training in the incubator program and three to eight will receive grant funding." Rose Powell, Innovation manager at The Walkley Foundation, Australia’s centre for excellence in journalism.
Hop on to Medium to find out more about the Walkleys Incubator & Innovation Fund, click HERE.
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This episode of Pregnancy Birth and Beyond Radio features an interview with Pam England, author, midwife, artist and founder of Birthing From Within. Her first book 'Birthing From Within An Extra Ordinary Guide to Childbirth Preparation' released in 1998 has sold over a 1 million copies. Pam's newly released book is called 'Ancient Maps for Modern Birth'. One of the themes in this new book explores the Hero's Journey as a of map for childbirth preparation. In this interview I ask Pam What is Birth as a Hero's Journey.
Just a quick note on the HJ, a very basic Analysis of HJ consists of three parts, preparation, ordeal and return.
The term or more so the map so to speak of a Hero's Journey, was coined by the late Joseph Campbell, an American mythologist, write and lecture born in 1904 and who passed away in 1987. Best known for his seminal book The Hero with a 1000 faces.
In 'Ancient Maps for Modern Birth', Pam England likens the HJ to the parents journey through pregnancy to parenthood, which too at a basic level consists of three aspects – pregnancy (preparation), labour and birth (the ordeal) and the postpartum journey (the return of the hero).
Additional key features of this episode include:
The Sumerian myth of Inanna Decent.
Fathers and partner in their own hero's journey to becoming a parent.
Joesph Campbell on birth as a heroic journey for the mother.
Postpartum, birth story integration as part of the hero's return journey.
Here are a couple of great quotes about the Hero's Journey.
“The journey of the hero is about the courage to seek the depths; the image of creative rebirth; the eternal cycle of change within us; the uncanny discovery that the seeker is the mystery which the seeker seeks to know. The hero journey is a symbol that binds, in the original sense of the word, two distant ideas, the spiritual quest of the ancients with the modern search for identity, always the one, shape-shifting yet marvelously constant story that we find.”
by Phil Cousineau
The Hero Path
"We have not even to risk the adventure alone
for the heroes of all time have gone before us.
The labyrinth is thoroughly known ...
we have only to follow the thread of the hero path.
And where we had thought to find an a-bom-I-nation
we shall find a God.
And where we had thought to slay another
we shall slay ourselves.
Where we had thought to travel outwards
we shall come to the center of our own existence.
And where we had thought to be alone
we shall be with all the world.”
by Joseph Campbell
We all want a healthy baby, there's no question of that, but I suspect there are underlying beliefs to the common phrase "As long as the baby is healthy" that deserve closer examination.
To me, it sounds like we're giving up elements of birth we think may not be important when we say this. What are we really sacrificing when we say "As long as the baby is healthy?"
I have identified 6 underlying beliefs to this common phrase, but there are bound to be more. Please comment below if you think there are others!
The underlying beliefs I have uncovered are:
1. “I am not qualified. Someone else needs to manage my birth.”
2. “My rights and my health and safety are subordinate to my baby’s. I must comply with my carer’s treatment.”
3. “The hospital/my maternity carer wants the same outcome as me.”
4. “Birth is dangerous and needs to be managed medically. Positive births are due to luck.”
5. “Labour and birth are simply painful, pointless torture. My partner has only a limited ability to support the process.”
6. “My experience is irrelevant and women who seek a positive experience are selfish and exposing the baby to risk.”
In Part 1 of this series, I cover beliefs 1-3, which focus on women's rights in childbirth and informed consent. Please give us your feedback. Do you think this information speaks to expectant parents, new to the world of birth and probably concerned about risks and that talked about a lot in society?
In Part 2 (due in May 2017) I will cover beliefs 4-6, which relate to the physical aspects of the birth process.
My thanks to Bashi Hazard and Bec Jenkinson for their invaluable contributions to this episode.
Raising teen girls can be a little hairy at times, and a little bit scary too... but not to fear, this episode we'll be giving you the low down on parenting teen girls.
From body image and self esteem, to dating and 'the sex talk' to teen girls finding their own scene of self and more right here on Pregnancy Birth and Beyond Radio.
If you have a preteen or teen daughter or if you have ever been a teen girl yourself, this episode will enlighten you and leave you a little more prepared and inspired for the joys and challenges of raising teens... we don't waste anytime here getting right to the core of it. Yes, 'the sex talk' matters and perhaps you will be a little surprised at what we discover. Helping our teen daughters find their own sense of identity, including giving the space for them to discover their own sexual identity while maintaining trust and healthy boundaries with you the parents.
The three ways mothers most influence your daughter according to Steve Biddulph from his book Raising Girls; one, you as a role model. The way you care for others and yourself, they was you deal with your own challenges, ups and downs, mishaps and successes all influence they way your daughter will in turn hers. Second, the living sharing of family values, keeping of agreements. While your daughter may roll her eyes or blow you off... she is more likely to show up for her friends according to the family values imparted upon her. And thirdly, the other women you bring into her life. What friends you bring into the home and into her life will influence her sense of what it is to be a woman.
Yet, it is not only mothers who have a huge influence on their daughters, fathers too play an equally significant role. Fathers are a daughters first significant male relationship, role model of man and what his role is in a relationship.
Listen to find out more.
Make sure you catch the last 10minutes (at 28 minutes in) of the podcast in which Tamar Ben-Hur performs her piece from the 'Vagina Conversations' Byron Bay 2017 titled 'In Relationship' not to be missed with the opening line "My vagina had a near death experience"
Our guests for this episode include the creator of Girl Wisdom, Gabrielle Goldklang. Gabrielle has been supporting teens in varied roles, classes, workshops to connect with themselves, their hearts and each other as they grow into young women. Gabrielle brings her extensive wisdom and insights as to what teen girls are saying they want and feel.
Tamar Ben-Hur is a couples relationship therapist who works with couples wanting to create deeper connections with each other. Tamar and her partner have been married for 25 years and is the mother of a 16 year old daughter and her son who is 13. Tamar shares with us from both her professional background and from her first hand experience as a mother of a teen daughter.
Produced and hosted by Lara Martin.
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